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Lisa-Ashley Smith's avatar

Dani I appreciate your open sharing of your experience surrounding Walters's end of life and for starting a discussion about pet loss. It's a unique experience and is not something you can quantifiably relate to any other kind of loss. All pets bring something different to each person and phase of life. When my husband and I lost our first fur baby, Smitty, my husband was brokenhearted in the deepest way. He had never had pets growing up and had never known the pure love and joy of a dog. The loss was immense. I'm sure those who have never known that love would not understand it. For me, the nonjudgmental, happy, pure joy of my dogs, and the fact that they have always been steadfast round-the-clock companions to me (and my children when growing up) makes their loss deeper and a different kind of pain.

As an older person who has been blessed with many incredible animals in my lifetime, I wish I had this resource years ago instead of learning from my own mistakes. There were two dog losses which I had no control over the way they left this world but four where it was in my hands. In most of those cases, I waited too long. Too long for me, overwhelmed by the demands of care, but especially too long when considering the loss of joy and perhaps even pain for my dogs. When I grew up, the thinking was if they are eating and drinking, that is a sign that they are okay and that you don't euthanize until the very end. I learned the hard way after my beagle couldn't walk or stand due to muscle atrophy that eating was something he would do no matter how bad he got. We called the vet to have him euthanized that morning, and while we waited, we gave him his favorite bacon, and he gobbled it up. He had to have been in terrible pain (dogs often mask pain), but that food instinct was there till the very end. Sadly, despite other signs of declining quality of life, we used eating as the measure of when it was time and didn't fully consider the quality of life for him and never factored ourselves into the equation. He was euthanized on his bed surrounded by his loved one in his favorite sun patch and Journeys Home (Madison, WI) took exceptional care of us that morning. Our boy didn't need the additional medication that day but it's great to know that is an option. I wish I had done it about 6 months earlier. I promised that day I would do better in the future when given the gift of providing a good end to the life of a furry companion.

As far as after the loss I keep all my dog's collars, tags, and photos in my home. There is always a faint feeling of sadness, but with time, more often than not, they bring me a smile as I remember the funny antics and pure joy they brought me.

I'm glad to see more acceptance, openness, and understanding of grief. I work on Mondays at my local camera store, and I can't tell you how many people have broken down in tears at our kiosks when I have been helping them print out a favorite photo of a beloved pet that they recently lost. They always apologize profusely and seem embarrassed but I understand and like to give a space to share grief too often is brushed under the rug and diminished. The stories of love shared in those moments are a testament to the ones they've lost. One customer was getting a canvas print and needed it rushed because they wanted paw prints added to the canvas before their son's dog was euthanized. We got it done that day and I thought this was a great idea.

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Veronica Garcia's avatar

This is so helpful. I wish I had seen this two months ago. My 15yr old pug was diagnosed with cancer. We had no idea how to manage. Unfortunately he died a painful/tragic death due to an accident, not his illness. I would do anything to go back and help him die with dignity. Thank you for sharing your experience

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